The Things We Do For Love ~ ♥

Today I just done my English Summary Presentation, the title for the article is "The Things We Do For Love". Although I tend to stutter for some times, I still made it to the finish line XD and I think it went quite smoothly. A very BIG Thank You to my sis and friends for helping me out with the preparation for my presentation, I couldn't done it without you guys. You guys ROCK! =P

The main purpose of the article is The attitude of both gender towards Romance. This is my 3 main points:

1) How women define romance

2) How men define romance

3) Advice for men

Following is my summary presentaion :-

Who doesn’t have dreams? Everyone that sitting here have their own dreams, either you have reached your goal or still chasing after it. Women are no exception, they have their own dream too, and for some of them getting married to the ideal man and live a prosperous life is one of their dreams. In this article, Souter stated that for most women, romance is one of the essential factors that they need in their life. This can be seen, during Valentine’s Day, a girl who gets a gift is seen as more superior and is envied by every other girl. Simone de Beauvoir claimed that many women who longs to be happy assumes that she must be loved, and to be loved, she must await love’s coming. This idea was already embedded in them since young through cartoons. Women want romance to continue in their life without losing its spark due to her believes that this can improve her relationship with her partner. They like their partners to do something out of their comfort zone such as romantic walks and cuddling time. Besides that, commitment is also a very important factor for them. We shall move on to the 2^nd point, how men define romance.

Most men are seen in the article as suggested by Souter as not romantic enough. Some of them see romance as a work that never ends due to the commitment and desires of women that they find hard to statisfyl. However, different men have different interpretation about romance. One man may think that a moment of silence will be a romantic gesture while another guy thinks that having sex is something romantic. Souter suggested that why men find it difficult to be romantic is because they don’t know why certain things will delight women. In addition, fear is another factor why men are not romantic. Firstly, the fear or rejection after doing something that seemed romantic to him. Secondly, his partner finds it suspicious when he is romantic and lastly it attracted undesired responses. Men tend to lose confidence and give up on being romantic. This lead us to the 3^rd point, advice for men.

Now here are some tips for men, Sharing and Listening are very important components to maintain a good relationship. Men should often share his thoughts and listen to their partner because women appreciates when their partners are honest especially when it comes to feelings and they liked to be listened to, as this is a sign that they are taken seriously. Moreover, men should show his effort in improving his relationship with his partner and utilize some element of surprise. The unexpected romantic gestures turn out to be thoughtful for a woman. Besides, by reading the book “Living Romantically Every Day” by Barbara Taylor Bradford will also be a good assistance. This book has a rose-print cover and contains pretty pictures which do not appeal to a man. However if he dares to read it, better yet, in public, it shows that he is making some effort and he is stepping out of his comfort zone. Souter suggested few ways that men can try to fulfill women’s wishes: First, Men can take more photos and make it into a scrapbook so that both them can look back at the moment. Second, Men can do something special for his partner. Third, Men could create a list of special days so that he and his partner can celebrate together.

For the conclusion, I believe that there is no specific definition for romance. Romance can be a big production or a little moment. Both men and women should compromise. Women should not being too picky nor expect too much and be more appreciative while men should not be overwhelmed by ego and be more courageous when they are seeking for their true love.

By the way, I got an A for my presentation! *Yay For Me*XD

A "Quick" Post!!

It's RAINING!! RAINING!! & RAINING!! This is my first winter in Sydney and I don't know actually it rain so often during winter. I found that the "Raining Style" at here is very weird. It always rain heavily but just for a short period and it stop then it continue to rain again, it's call 小便雨 in chinese XD ~

*Sigh* I'm having a hard time with one of my group member. Sometimes I felt her being too bossy... When we create our group questionnaire, she said she don't like my question and she want me to change it ; When we are doing our own graph, she want me to redo the my whole graph in the last minute ; During Sunday night, I asked her whether Monday is the due date for my part. She told me No and on Monday morning, I received a SMS from her that 'She hope I already done my part, cause it is my responsibility.' Due to a little time left , I just find a sample from the textbook and modify it. I showed it to my teacher and she said ok with my work. But Miss X reply me with an email.

"Sorry Tom but I am disappointed with what you have done..You were not supposed to copy off the sample at the back of the book..!! Where is your own effort...?!anyway.. I will do that again...Thank you.."

After I read this email, I felt so angry and frustrated. I know it is for our group own good but just don't cross the line. It's ok to be bossy but you need to have a limit. It's ok to give advice but don't despise other's hardwork.

When I'm walking back home, I suddenly felt maybe it is lesson from God that I need to experince it and I should take it as a stepping stone to learn how to forgive and forget. After that, I felt more calm down. We will meet people from all walks of life and we could not expect everyone to think or do things the same way as us. So there will be a lot of lessons that we need to face it and gain something from it. Actually this post should be a short one, but I just felt I need to find somewhere to express my feeling...

Ah! I'm now preparing from my English summary presentation. Tomorrow I'm gonna present it to my class and the title is "The Things We Do For Love." XD I'm going to continue with my work. This Sunday I will be going for an excursion with my class. I will update my blog a.s.a.p! Hope you all will have a Great Friday and weekend.

Off I go... God Bless Ya All :)

Winter

Winter is creeping in.. Monday was the first day of winter and now the weather is getting colder and colder. It is raining here most the time.

Last Thursday, my group went to Bondi Junction to do our survey for our group report. We chose to go on Thursday is because it is the Shopping Day and that is the only day for stores open till 9pm. Our group topic is The Effect of Lifestyle on The Level of Stress. The purpose of our survey is to investigate the relationship between some of our daily habits and the level of stress we experience. We started our survey at 6.30pm , our survey took us 3 hours + and I had to stand for 3 hours just to do 15 survery. By the time we finished our survey, it's already 9.30pm and I'm exhausted + starving.  All the shops had closed and I didn't have the time for shopping T___T. After that, I had my dinner with my sister at the food court. 

This is something I found from the internet regarding about how our habits effect our stress level.

Caffeine : Caffeinated foods and drinks such as coffee, tea, colas, energy drinks,and chocolates increases stress levels by stimulating the central nervous system. Excess intake of caffeine will result in  hyperactive mood , poor concentration , decrease effectiveness, sleep disturbances, and increased levels of cortisol in the blood and cause irritation and stress.

Sugar : By eating sugary foods, it will quickly raises the energy levels in the body in a short-period. But it is only temporary and will cause a drastic fall in the energy level.

Alcohol : Although many people turn to alcohol in order to relieve stress they are actually greatly aggravating the problem. Alcohol causes an increase in adrenaline production which in turn causes insomnia, heightened irritability and other such problems.

Foods high in salt and saturated fats: These are usually found in fast foods & junk foods and are very harmful to the health. They can cause heightened blood pressure , it is easy to lead to stress problem. Besides that, it also increase the chances of coronary heart disease.

Exercise : By doing exercise can effectively reduce stress. It is believed that 30 minutes of exercise/ sport is enough for the whole week.

Sleeping : Sleeping is an essential factor that affect stress. A good quality of sleeping time will make you feel refreshed and you will often find that people that didn't get a good sleep are mostly stressful people. The recommended hours of sleep is around 7-8 hours daily.

Personally, I believed that a balanced diet + exercise/hobbies + good quality of resting time = A healthy lifestyle and good health!